Truth or Dare

Is it possible to be too honest, or is honesty always the best policy?

Firstly, apologies for the picture. It was the best I could find without going down the porn, sexy underwear or Madonna route, all of which either are or should be against the T&Cs of my web hosting.

There are a number of things that parents may teach a young child before they even go to school. In my case, these were important life skills such as learning to go to the toilet and learning that it is, apparently, not the done thing to use your twin brother to bring you things as a means not to walk. That is just laziness and lack of application and, indeed, learning to walk and use the toilet have been symbiotically useful to me in later life.

Still being able to remember the lyrics to most of Elton John’s back catalog? Not so much.

One of the other life lessons was to tell the truth. Not only is this a thoroughly decent thing to do, but it does save you falling into narcissism and having to remember which lie is actually not. However, it can come with its own pitfalls about how honest you should be.

I’ve heard of instances in the past of sparing details, whether that be trivial things such as me saying that I’d “eaten” in response to whether I’d had dinner. I told the truth – I’d had a Double Decker and a banana at 16.30. Not really dinner though. I’ve also had the importance of hospital visits heavily diluted so as not to worry me despite the fact I would want to help. Sometimes the whole truth and nothing but the truth is not the best thing for everyone but it can be done for the right reasons.

Apparently sometimes I can also tell the truth and put my foot in my mouth at the same time as the words leave it. Never tell your girlfriend of the time that her purple nail varnish makes it look like she trapped her hand in a door and it looks painful, for example.

However, moving on from yesterday’s post about changing my mind and regretting things, there are times when I’ve dared myself to be too honest and that has been a bad decision for me. I’m shockingly bad at saying what I mean when I think it might put someone else in a difficult situation. It seemed the right thing to do but ended up being quite a rubbish time yet, honestly, I’m still not certain I wouldn’t do it again with only minor changes of tactic. Interestingly, these situations have usually been selfish ones where the benefit of the honesty has only been recognised on one side.

Your conscience is the measure of the honesty of your selfishness. Listen to it carefully.

Richard Bach

I guess that the honesty of a situation then depends on the reasons for not being completely truthful, and this is massively subjective.

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Say anything you want already. I’m not scared anymore.
Honesty or mystery?
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