OK. First things first – in English English it’s Mum!
I should also say that I’m not wishing to court controversy with this post. I wasn’t going to write it and, being brutally honest, it sometimes annoys me going on the Daily Post website to see how others have replied to the suggestion of the day to see that, actually, they’re just looking for hits and use the trackback as a tool for that irrespective of what they’ve actually written. I feel like I’m treading on that territory here, but I felt compelled to reply indirectly to what I saw in most of the posts.
I like to think, with a lot of the post suggestions provided, that there’s a deeper prompt beyond the story telling – that they cause people to think about the content they share rather than simply type. A bit like classic interview answers with the suggested structure of “situation, action, result”, a lot of blog posts can tell a story which could either end there or could be followed by the lessons learnt from what has happened.
I’m lucky – my Mum and I get on. Yes, I think we irritate each other sometimes but as her offspring I think that’s a given! We’re also joined by our mutual worry for each other it seems! I understand that some people may not have that sort of relationship with their mother for one reason or another. And that’s why I felt compelled to write this without answering the question.
For me, the important part of the prompt is “but haven’t been able to”. There are things I want to say to people but don’t because I think it’s for the best. I’ve also been on the other side of that and have had things kept from me because others thought it was better I don’t know. Sometimes it’s right, sometimes it’s wrong, but I can deal with it if it’s done honestly. Other things I’ve heard and wish I hadn’t. Honestly, there’s no pleasing some people!
So here’s my point. If you’re willing and if you’re able, why would you not tell someone something? Especially if that something is “I love you” or “thank you” and that person is your mother?
Even if your hands are shakin’
And your faith is broken,
Even as the eyes are closin’
Do it with a heart wide open,
A wide heart –
Say what you need to say.
Say What You Need To Say by John Mayer