It’s Good To Talk

A colleague of mine sent me an instant message earlier, telling me of something that happened and suggesting that I “should talk to Michael about it”.  In the circumstances, it may have been better for me to talk to myself about it as me and the voices in my head may have actually arrived at a decent decision.  Alas, she was actually suggesting I talk to someone else.

That suggestion to talk to one person – an informal chat – turned in to yet another meeting.  I’m beginning to take a bit of a dislike to meetings because, generally speaking, with volume and frequency comes a distinct lack of necessity.  Instead of me talking to one person, I ended up on a phone call with 3 people in 3 different UK locations, 2 people in the US, 1 in Holland and another 4 in India.

The trouble with inviting so many people is that they all want to say something, and some of them only do that because they feel a need to.  There really is some truth to the adage about best letting someone think you’re a fool than open your mouth and prove it!

It reminded us of a game on Radio 4 called Just a Minute.  The rules are that a panellist has to talk for a minute about a subject, and during that minute they are not allowed any instance of hesitation, deviation or repetition.  A few of us have agreed that this will be our new in-meeting game.  It’s a more utilitarian alternative to trying to add film quotes or music lyrics in to the conversation with no-one else noticing.

Not quite as fun though.

The truth is that it doesn’t really matter how many people you talk to, as long as they’re the right people for the circumstance.  The only people invited to the meeting should be the ones with something useful to add.  Outside a business environment I’ve spent many a happy hour only speaking to one person about rubbish and our lives and ideas. I’ve also had great fun with parties of, well, loads, talking about the kind of things only a group of loads can talk about, especially after a few drinks.  There can also be instances where talking things through on your own is the right thing to do too.

Sometimes, as Bob Hoskins used to say for BT, “it’s good to talk”.

I can remember the good old days,
Where you and me, we used to hide away
Where the stars were shining or the sun was blinding our eyes

Yeah, you filled up my glass
With promises that could never last
But I still find pieces of you in the back of my mind

And all of the things that we once said,
Are not in my heart, they’re in my head
That was the time to say goodbye
Let’s put it to rest, yeah, let it die

’cause we don’t, we don’t need to talk about this now
Yeah, we’ve been down that road before
That was then and this is now

The crowds in my heart they’ve been calling out your name
Now it just don’t feel the same
Guess it’s over, yeah, we’re done

I heard you made your way downtown
To the place I’ve been hanging around
I was looking for your face in the crowd
But trying to keep my head down

Over time our wires crossed
Well you changed and the truth got lost
All the things I would change if we could only rewind

You were a moment in life that comes and goes
A riddle, a rhyme that no one knows
A change of a heart, a twist of fate
Couldn’t fix it, it’s too late

’cause we don’t, we don’t need to talk about this now
Yeah, we’ve been down that road before
That was then and this is now

The crowds in my heart they’ve been calling out your name
But it just don’t feel the same
I guess it’s over, yeah, we’re done

We don’t, we don’t need to talk about this now
We don’t, we don’t need to talk about this now
We don’t, we don’t need to talk about this now
We don’t, we don’t need to talk about this now

Talk by Kodaline


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A lively group discussion, an intimate tête-à-tête, an inner monologue — in your view, when it comes to a good conversation, what’s the ideal number of people?

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