A few weeks ago I wrote a blog post called Evasive Action about my secret, or secrets, without actually telling them. And, to be fair, all the readers of that article declined the invitation to ask me. Thanks everyone – all 23 of you fine people!
They did a feature on wireless a few days after that about when you have had secrets or surprises ruined. They had some people ringing in about surprise parties being ruined but the best one was about a wife organising a secret trip to New York for her husband one Christmas, which also coincided with his 40th birthday. (People, take note – you don’t have to wait till my 40th!)
There were so many people involved in the keeping of this secret. The wife had had to book hotels and also ask the husband’s boss if he could have the time off. They were traveling somewhere when the wife received an e-mail confirming a restaurant booking in New York. She told her husband to check the e-mail and he, putting 2 and 2 together, came up with his wife having an affair and about to leave him for an American guy.
In the end, the secret was outed to save the marriage let alone the holiday.
I think the worst time for my family keeping a secret is Christmas and birthdays when it comes to presents. This year both my parents wanted the new James Bond book Trigger Mortis for Christmas. It’s not unusual for us to buy them books, and it’s even less unusual for a group of us to decide who is getting who what.
This year, for a number of reasons, Christmas didn’t quite go as planned so various presents got given and unwrapped at times that weren’t supposed to happen. My dear mother, after every thing was finished, spent a good period of questioning where “the missing present” was, not taking the hint that it was coming from someone else at a different time. She effectively wanted me to give away the secret rather than just taking the damned hint!
It’s not always about keeping secrets. Sometimes it’s about how far you will go to find them out, and then whether you’re happy knowing. Sometimes some information is too much information, while in other circumstances having something confirmed can actually help a situation despite it not looking like it on the surface.
Who has to know
The way she feels inside (inside)
Those thoughts I can’t deny (deny)
These sleeping thoughts won’t lie (won’t lie)
And all I’ve tried to hide
It’s eating me apart
Trace this life out
I’ll keep you my dirty little secret
(Dirty little secret)
Don’t tell anyone or you’ll be just another regret
(Just another regret)
Dirty Little Secret by The All-American Rejects
Inspired by Secret. For some reason I just noticed what a funny word it looks when it’s typed!