A Quick Rant In Reply To A Few Quick Rants.

I’m just going to have a bit of a rant, because I’m in the mood for it this morning.

I’ve read three different blog posts from three different bloggers over the last few days with subjects as follows:

  1. I’m a single female who wants a boyfriend but hate it when men come to talk to me when I’m out and I wish they’d just stop.
  2. I was seeing this guy and he’s everything I’ve ever wanted and he’s “awesome” and makes me really happy but I split up with him anyway, just because.
  3. If a man seems too good to be true – he is.  Run.

Now, I thought that I was cynical.  I know that I am naive, but I never thought that I was this naive.

Before I rant more generally, nothing kicks a guy in the balls harder than seeing all those things.  When I walk up to someone in a bar, absolutely terrified of once again being rejected and embarrassing myself, and I say hello and introduce myself, sure, I do it out of a degree of physical attraction.  But what I am doing is saying hello and introducing myself.  If, lo and behold, the rejection doesn’t happen and I get to know someone and we become friends and I tell them that they’re amazing and that I think that they’re beautiful and that I want to be there for them, that’s what I’m saying.  I’m not saying “Go over there and take your underwear off”.  I’m doing it because I’d like to get to know them, find out if we have anything in common, see whether we have fun together, like each other and then go from there to wherever it might be.

I’m sure some people do do the bit about the underwear, of course.  I’m sure that some people fall for that.  But don’t let them tarnish everyone else to your own detriment.

And please, stop saying you like “bad boys” if you obviously don’t!

And now, moving on to the more general points:

When did we start to believe that everyone has a hidden agenda?  Why can’t we look at our own issues of why we’re so ****ing untrusting rather than just blame someone else?

When did we become so averse to just being ****ing happy?  If something makes you happy and something doesn’t, you work on the thing that doesn’t, not sack off the thing that does.  That’s, surely, common sense?

If there’s something in the back of your mind saying “I’m not good enough for them”, well just let them be the judge of that.  It might be the case that they like your little imperfections.

Perhaps I live in a fairytale, but has anyone ever stopped to think that sometimes, just sometimes, good things can actually happen and that you deserve them?  Or that some people can just be thoroughly decent human beings?

It’s like some people are prepared to stand there and go “Meh, I’ve had to settle for the best of a bad bunch” because they think that’s all they deserve.  To the women who echo the sentiments above, are you going to look at your new husband on your wedding day and say “I love you” or “You’re alright, but I’ve had to make do with you because, really, you’re just all awful”?  It’s going to be the first statement, isn’t it?

When did we decide that we have to let go of something amazing and go for something not quite as good?  The issue, then, doesn’t lie with the thing we cast aside and throw away, it’s with ourselves.

It might seem crazy what I’m about to say
Sunshine she’s here, you can take a break
I’m a hot air balloon that could go to space
With the air, like I don’t care, baby, by the way

Uh [had to keep the “Uh” in there!]

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

Happy by Pharell


Comments 5

  1. I absolutely love your take on cynicism/lowered expectations….wonderfully written and sincere…thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Thank you, Truly. That was probably the least edited blog post I’ve ever written so maybe I should learn the lesson!

  2. Amy Rose

    Have to say, I was singing along at the end there 😉 I think happiness is the magic ingredient in life. If certain situations or people make you unhappy, it’s best to reevaluate if they need to be a part of your life. Whether it be your job, partner, friend…if it can’t be fixed to align with your goals for happiness, it’s definitely time to review/change/remove from your life. I’ve recently recommenced learning about the law of attraction, after just one week I can feel my emotions are becoming more positive because I’m changing my thoughts.
    And as for approaching girls, good for you for putting yourself out there. If you get rejected, it says more about the girl than you. And not in a good way!

    • Absolutely agree Amy! In the second post I wrote yesterday, though, I do think maybe some people can’t change their minds about what makes them happy. Hopefully they’re always honest.

      Good for you and your new positivity! And thanks for your words.

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