When To Give Up The Fight

I’m not particularly a fan of UFC.  All I see is a human cock fight, whereas in a sport like boxing or one of the more standard martial arts I can see a degree of nobility and technical – I don’t know how to say it, skill? – involved in using a more limited technique to hit someone else in the head, often repeatedly.  Of course, I wouldn’t say this directly to anyone who did the sport because I’m sure they could do me some serious damage!

However, I do know two UFC fighters.  I know of Ronda Rousey, and not just because of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition in which she appeared covered in just very elaborate body paint.  I also know of Conor McGregor who I believe is pretty good and has made quite a bit of money out of the sport.

I also know that, in a fight with Nate Diaz earlier this month, McGregor tapped out of a “rear-naked choke hold” for the first time in his career.  He effectively, and I hope he doesn’t read this, gave up on the fight.  Now, if it was me, I would be doing that too where the other option is passing out! It feels like the best option by a fairly long way to me.

I don’t think I’ve ever been in a physical fight myself before.  I’ve been in the presence of a friend who was headbutted after a discussion at some urinals about brown shoes and I’ve certainly had verbal arguments.  I’ve also threatened to cart my bad back over to someone else’s place to kick someone’s ass at one point, but I think there might have been a polite request for them to turn round and bend over to enable me to do so if the situation ever arose.

I remember once playing football against a team with a really bad reputation.  They got a corner and I went up to head it clear.  On my way down I caught one of their players in the face with my arm and gave him a bleeding nose.  I did worry that that would kick off, but I think they beat us fairly easily so I possibly wasn’t worth the effort.

We do, though, all fight (not in the sense of physical violence) for things, whether that be possessions, jobs or the affections of someone else.  Sometimes there comes a point where the juice isn’t worth the squeeze and we give up.  What surprised me when reading about McGregor is that there are some fighters who would rather “go to sleep” than tap out, like it’s better for their body to give up the fight than them to make the conscious decision.

It’s interesting that there is conflicting opinion on when something is worth fighting for, even if it seems a certain outcome.  There will be one camp saying that if it’s important enough to you that you always need to try and work for it and not give up, while others say that to keep on fighting is just prolonging the agony.  As Conor McGregor realised, there comes that point where giving up the fight is the last thing you want to do, but it’s both the hardest and most sensible choice to make.  Understanding where that point is, though, is really not easy.

Now everyday ain’t gonna be no picnic
Love ain’t no walk in the park
All you can do is make the best of it now
Can’t be afraid of the dark

Just know that you’re not in this thing alone
There’s always a place in me that you can call home
Whenever you feel like we’re growing apart
Let’s just go back back, back back, back to the start, oh

Anything that’s worth havin’
Sure enough worth fighting for
Quittin’s out of the question
When it gets tough, gotta fight some more

Fight For This Love by Cheryl (herself not averse to a bit of a ruckus)

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