Crossroads And The Underrated Backwards

Getting crossroads right is a big deal.  Just ask Britney Spears; that film was awful.

I’m not good at left and right.  I know in The Direction In Which Something Is Locked I mentioned the phrase I use to understand which way I need to turn something to tighten it or loosen it, but unfortunately there is also something that needs to precede that.

I have to hold out my thumb and index finger on each hand.  On one hand it will form an L shape.  This is left.  By process of elimination, the other is right.

This is a fool-proof method in most circumstances, but not all.  This morning I had a bad time with left and right while I was driving somewhere I’ve never been.  When you’re driving round a bend it’s not not always easy to position your hands properly on the steering wheel to use a thumb and finger for something else other than grip.

I reached two crossroads in quick succession, guided by a sat nav (voice only because it was on my phone on the passenger seat) and made the wrong decision twice.  In turning crossroads in to an analogy, it’s usually decision making that most people think of.

You reach a crossroads and it can probably have any number of directions / decisions but I guess most people would see left, right or straight ahead.  I wonder how many people see backwards, the way you came.


I’m not talking necessarily about admitting that you’re wrong.  It takes great fortitude to admit without excuse that you didn’t do something right and sometimes in the face of indisputable evidence some people can still not admit their error (although it might not be entirely their own fault).

I wanted to say that I’m not even necessarily talking about realising that where you were was the best place, but I can’t quite explain that other than to say that backwards is actually a proper bona fide direction to somewhere you aren’t currently.

When Jurgen Klopp first took over as manager of Liverpool he said this:

“It needs a lot of time for the end, but not to start… If somebody feels they have waited enough for success – restart and then everything can happen.”

And indeed, why rule out potential opportunities just because you think you’ve been there before?


Say hello to the girl that I am!
You’re gonna have to see through my perspective
I need to make mistakes just to learn who I am
And I don’t wanna be so damn protected
There must be another way
Cause I believe in taking chances
But who am I to say
What a girl is to do
God, I need some answers

What am I to do with my life
(You will find it out don’t worry)
How Am I supposed to know what’s right?
(You just got to do it your way)

Overprotected by Britney Spears

Comments 2

  1. Ersie Courea

    I find that vitamins B complex and C stave off depression. Just saying. Also breakfast like aN
    Eastern religion or even a Greek monk! I am studying your blog but can;t follow it! How can I ?

    • Haha! That’s feedback that I haven’t had before! Not all my posts are related with a theme so they can stand on their own. I just try to do a bit of a personal story and a conclusion in most of them, and try to leave people with something to think about.

      This one was just a thought I had because when everyone sees “crossroads” they see a journey and moving forward and making mistakes and all that stuff. Sometimes you don’t need to move forwards to enjoy life. Sometimes it’s even worth going back to the beginning to try again.

      I think some people get so caught up in doing what others think should make them happy that they sometimes don’t notice what it actually is that makes them happy. You can get stuck in a rut of “I need to change job”, “I need to move to a new city”, “I need to change this” or “I need to change that” because that is what perceived wisdom states – you need to constantly challenge yourself. While that’s true, the challenge should be to make you happy and I think that some people can not realise that at that point in time, they’re actually pretty happy with how things are going.

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