The Happiness Partnership

I think it was last week that there was an advert on wireless for a program called “John Bishop: In Conversation With…”

John Bishop, for those who don’t know, is a comedian from Liverpool.  I had no idea he had a chat show.  In this particular episode, he was speaking to singer and Strictly Come Dancing Finalist Louise Redknapp.

Before marrying her footballing sick note husband Jamie, Louise was best known as just her first name as part of group Eternal and then embarking on a solo singing career.

Unfortunately I can’t find the quote or the clip, but the conversation started with Bishop saying that he would be quite pleased to be Mrs. Redknapp and ended with Louise saying that the thing with having a successful husband is that it’s a reminder about how unsuccessful you are at home with the kids.

Now compare that to a recent Court of Appeal divorce hearing between Mandy Gray and Randy Work, that latter of whom was complaining that his wife was walking away with too much money from their marriage.  From what I can gather, they moved to Japan together where he earned £140m while she raised their two children.

An earlier court ordered the £140m to be split evenly but Work thought that he was a “genius” (a legally significant and legally derived term in this instance) and so appealed, and the appeal was rejected.

It’s a decision that (in my opinion) correctly identifies the significance of the partnership.

I know that there is a lot said about needing to be happy in yourself before you can be happy in a relationship.  I get that, but what I can’t understand is when people don’t realise that being in a partnership can make the two greater than the sum of its parts.

It makes sense that we’re better together, or we would not look to build relationships in the first place.  It’s not about one being successful and one not, or one looking for a missing piece of the jigsaw without whom they would not be happy, but about sharing goals towards which the partnership can work for the happiness of both.

Remember boy that your forefather’s died
Lost in millions for a country’s pride
But they never mention the trenches of Belgium
When they stopped fighting and they were one

A spirit stronger than war was at work that night

December 1914 cold, clear and bright
Countries’ borders were right out of sight
When they joined together and decided not to fight

All together now
All together now
All together now, in no man’s land

All together now
All together now
All together now, in no man’s land

The same old story again
All those tears shed in vain
Nothing learnt and nothing gained
Only hope remains

All together now
All together now
All together now
In no man’s land
All together now
All together now
All together now
In no man’s land

The boys had their say they said no
Stop the slaughter let’s go home, let’s go, let’s go

All Together Now by The Farm

Comments 1

  1. Marriage is a partnership, not a competition over who does more work, or brings home more pay! 😃🐻

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