Guardians, Emotions, Omissions And Farting

Last week I went to see Guardians Of The Galaxy Vol. 2.  It’s an enjoyable film and certainly one of the better superhero follow ups I’ve seen even if it isn’t quite as good as the first one.

I don’t want to go in to full on spoiler mode for anyone who hasn’t seen it so I’m going to put some lines in this post which hopefully you’ll be able to see and scroll past to get to the bit that doesn’t really mention the film whatsoever but gets to the point of this post.


 

 

OK, so you’ve seen it (yay, go you!) or aren’t planning (boo!).

One of the themes running through both the Guardians films is the team coming together.  In Vol. 2, this theme takes much more of a front of seat as Starmunch Starlord meets his biological father.  One of the subplots, however, is the increased “tension” between Starlord and Gamora who keep touching on something “unspoken”.

 

 


Right then.  Everyone else back? You’re not going to blame me for ruining your entertainment if you didn’t heed my warning? Good.  Then let me start on the second part of this completely disjoined post.

It’s probably fair to say that from formative teenage years most people have had various degrees of romantic heart break from the hottest girl in class already dating the guy three years older than her to losing the love of your life.  There’s also the situation where you feel you can’t quite tell someone how you feel.

On holiday this year, one of the people I was sharing a chalet with had been with her boyfriend for months longer than she wanted to be because she couldn’t work out how to split up with him.  At the other end of the scale, I’ve been friends with someone who didn’t tell me how she felt about me until she could no longer deal with it.

I decided to scour the internet for reasons why you should always tell people how you feel.  If I’m honest, all the articles may as well just say, “because it’s better”.  None can really say why it’s better at anything more than a superficial level.  I can find really helpful (yeah, sarcasm doesn’t really come across in type, does it?) lists of when you should speak up but everything that says why simply alludes to cliches of it showing that you love yourself and it’s better for everyone.

Other reasons are talking about closure.  The person I alluded to earlier who didn’t talk to me… Well I’d previously told this person that I thought there was more there than “just friends” to be met with a solid rebuttal.  She then said months later that we didn’t talk about feelings, despite the fact I had nothing further to say either about my feelings towards her or any other women.

Silence is not always an omission but can sometimes be a simple sign that there is nothing to talk about.  It’s not always that you’re un-emotional and closed off.

So let’s go back to our main protagonists – why would you actively speak about something as that thing which is “unspoken”?  I think the answer is what you want to get out of the relationship.  I obviously can’t dive too far in to the minds of fictional characters that you only see for a few years every year, but is it possible that it’s because they think it is for the best?

There’s an interesting line that creeps in to talking about feelings that, in my mind, trumps all the cliches.  That is that no-one ever has the right to tell you how you feel.  Every list, every article has to speak generally about things that fit the majority of situations and, when I’ve read them, I can’t disagree.

And I really wanted to disagree!  I wanted to find an article that said sometimes it’s right to not talk about feelings.  The only one I could find likened talking about feelings to farting – it feels good to get it out there but you only get temporary relief before it poisons the room!

Therefore, not farting can actually be as big a show of emotion as anything else.  Both of “our main protagonists” (geez, could you not just have watched the damn film?!) felt that it was a better way to show their feelings by not mentioning them directly and that’s fine because it’s how they feel, and who are we to tell them that they’re wrong to work that way?

Hmm… “A better way to show their feelings…”  For those times when actions speak louder than words anyway, if you just choose to look properly.

I’m a suspect, I’m a traitor,
I’m only here in body visiting.
Yellow faces in the distance screams,
“The beauty is in what isn’t said,”
I’m rising to my feet,

Because tonight, the world turned in me.
Because right now, I don’t dare to breathe.
Oh, babe, I know, it’s alive and somewhere for us to find,
Tonight, oh chase this light with me.

My just so, my last call,
My life is yours in your gifted hands.
Confetti rainfall in a quiet street.
These things I’ve found are special now,
The knot is in my reach,

Because tonight, the world turned in me.
Because right now, I don’t dare to breathe.
Oh, babe, I know, it’s alive and somewhere for us to find,
Tonight, oh chase this light with me.

A movie, still photograph,
Through a martyr’s eyes can I see,
I’ve seen the best of love, the best of hate, the best reward is earned,
And I’ve paid for every single word I ever said.

Confetti rainfall in a quiet streets.
The beauty is in what you make it,
So get up on your feet.

Because tonight, the world turned in me,
Because right now, I don’t dare to breathe.
Oh, babe, I know, it’s alive and somewhere for us to find,
Tonight, oh chase this light with me.
Because tonight, the world turned in me.
Because right now, I don’t dare to breathe.
Oh, babe, I know, it’s alive and somewhere for us to find,
Tonight, chase this light with me.

Chase This Light by Jimmy Eat World

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