Positive Addictions

My cat is becoming a tuna junky.

Last time I was away from home, I left the cat-sitter with some tuna loins designed for cats.  I thought it would be a treat for Moo and a little consolation to balance how much he was missing me, even if that isn’t too much!

The problem now, though, is that he’s got a taste for it.  I go to get his breakfast or dinner out the kitchen and he stays in there, sitting next to the fridge, howling at it.  When I don’t get anything out of it, he tried to open it himself.  If I can’t find him, I know that he’s going to be in the kitchen.  He’s nearly addicted to it.

The one thing I have noticed, though, is that his coat is in better condition since he’s been eating it.

William Glasser wrote a book called “Positive Addictions” which is described as:

  1. It is something noncompetitive that you choose to do and you can devote approximately an hour per day;
  2. It is possible for you to do it easily and it doesn’t take a good deal of mental effort to do it well;
  3. You can do it alone or rarely with others but it does not depend upon others to do it;
  4. You believe that it has some value (physical, mental, or spiritual) for you;
  5. You believe that if you persist at it you will improve—but this is completely subjective—you need to be the only one who measures the improvement; and
  6. The activity must have the quality that you can do it without criticising yourself. If you can’t accept yourself during this time the activity will not be addicting.

That summary is taken from an article by Peg O’Connor Ph.D. who ventures that calling any addiction “positive” is the wrong thing.  It emphasises the opposite.  O’Connor calls a “positive addiction” an oxymoron as the term “addiction” is “used to differentiate normal behaviors from those that are not normal, well beyond excessive, and bring significant physical and psychological negative consequences”.

Linguistically it’s interesting.  I’m sure Moo would say that he’s not addicted, if he could pull himself away from the fridge door!

I heard you’re doing OK
But I want you to know
I’m addict
I’m addicted to you
I can’t pretend I don’t care
When you don’t think about me
Do you think I deserve this?

I tried to make you happy but you left anyway

I’m trying to forget that
I’m addicted to you
But I want it and I need it
I’m addicted to you
Now it’s over
Can’t forget what you said
And I never wanna do this again
Heartbreaker
Heartbreaker
Heartbreaker

Since the day I met you
And after all we’ve been through
I’m still a dick
I’m addicted to you
I think you know that it’s true
I’d run a thousand miles to get you
Do you think I deserve this?

I tried to make you happy
I did all that I could
Just to keep you
But you left anyway

I’m trying to forget that
I’m addicted to you
But I want it and I need it
I’m addicted to you
Now it’s over
Can’t forget what you said
And I never wanna do this again
Heartbreaker
Heartbreaker

How long will I be waiting?
Until the end of time
I don’t know why I’m still waiting
I can’t make you mine

I’m trying to forget that
I’m addicted to you
But I want it and I need it
I’m addicted to you

Now it’s over
Can’t forget what you said
And I never wanna do this again
Heartbreaker

Heartbreaker
I’m addicted to you

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