What I Learnt From : The Know-It-All

I was perusing t’interweb the other day, probably at work.  I got to the bottom of the article I was reading and it had some stupid adverts at the bottom.  This was one of them.

The one that caught my eye was the one in the middle about the declassified photos, and possibly not for the reason you think.

I used to do archery as a kid and for quite a few seasons seemed to spend all my time coaching it.  I saw that picture and noticed some things.  First up, her front shoulder is too high, indicating that the bow is probably to strong for her.  She’s overdrawing by some considerable distance which will screw accuracy and possibly cause her nasty injuries to boob, ear and face.  She’s holding the string too tightly so release won’t be smooth and the elbow from her drawing arm is too low, meaning that she’d pulling the string with her bicep rather than her back.

A few weeks ago we having a conversation about redundancy in the office.  This an all too regular occurrence nowadays.  While giving some advice, someone said that one was “legally entitled” to something of which there really is no legal entitlement at all, it would just have been common decency and respect.

Both those things got me thinking about the Know-It-All and, before you say anything, I’m counting me and the advice giver as that in the second scenario.  We’ve all encountered one, from the one that simply knows everything about everything to the one who asks for advice but then tells you at every turn that you either don’t understand or are wrong.

I’ve always wondered what the Know-It-All wants to achieve since I first met one in the shape of a friend’s boyfriend years ago.  I was so fed up of being wrong about everything that I faked a phone call from work and left them to it.  (Yes, that could have been what he wanted!)  With him, I thought it was a case of wanting to exert superiority which possibly suggests a degree of insecurity somewhere.

Latterly I’ve found that the best way to speak to a Know-It-All is to ask them more details about what it is they’re saying.  With the “legal entitlement” I asked what legal provision or piece of case law established the entitlement and they were unable to answer.

But, here’s the thing…  In trying to counter a Know-It-All so as to help give proper advice, it made me feel like I was the one being a bit of cock.  The lesson I learnt was that in some instances it’s better not to volunteer any information until you’re asked.

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