I was stood in the queue in Starbucks a good while ago, largely minding my own business.
An obese man joined the queue behind me and proceeded to rub his gut against my arm. I moved forward to get a bit of my own personal space back, but so did he. He was so close, I could feel him breathing through his nose. I left the queue with a huff and a stare and joined again behind him. He didn’t flicker.
While this is annoying too, I’ve recently found myself getting more annoyed by another example of others not thinking about the space they’re taking up. Yes, this isn’t people getting too close, or standing right behind you looking over your shoulder or any other form of unwelcome infringement on personal space. This is people just getting in the f*cking way!
If I use some examples.
There is a long straight corridor at work. Two people can walk side by side along it, but no more. So if you want to have a conversation with someone, both of you stand next to the wall. It just means that people can walk past rather than asking you to move.
In the second example, when there’s an even longer and even wider corridor which is punctuated by fire doors, don’t tie your shoelace in one of the doorways, do it at the side of the corridor in a bit of dead space that’s never used and would therefore be very suitable for shoelace tying.
I don’t think they’re doing it on purpose. In most instances a second thought wouldn’t be given and it’s just positions that people find themselves in.
At this juncture, I could write something deep and meaningful about removing people from your life who get in the way of you achieving your goals. I’m not going to because most of the memes I see online around that theme are poorly thought, narcissistic and dangerous and I’ll leave them for another post.
But most of all I’m not going to do that because it gives undue credit to those who just get in the f*cking way and I know it’s not a big deal but it still annoys me!